I’ve been asked what the one thing was that I wish I knew when I was a teenager, and do you know what it is!?! I honestly wish that I knew that I didn’t have to ‘look’ like everyone/anyone else! I wish I realized that women truly do come in ALL shapes and sizes! (For example, think about 10 women you know right now, and just think how different each one of their bodies looks…unless those women are your family members of course!)
I wish someone told me that I didn’t have to look good in clothes that long and lean models wear, and that if I found my own ‘style’ then I could dress my body to look pretty darn cute (hey that can be hard being 5 foot!)
I wish someone told me that I shouldn’t compare myself to anyone else, because even when I was feeling pretty ‘good’ about myself one minute…It would all go out the window a moment later when I took one look at the ‘model’ sitting next to me.
The thing that I’ve realized now that I’m an adult is that as long as we are ‘comparing ourselves’ to anyone, we will find dis-satisfaction with what we DO have! When I started to realize this truth, and focus on the good in me, (and I mean purposely notice the things that I do love about me) I was shocked by what happened…I started to feel truly beautiful!
I was recently talking with a friend who was feeling very frustrated about her lack of progress losing weight, despite her very strenuous efforts. I knew there had to be somewhere that she was missing it, so I began asking questions like…”How often are you working out, about how many calories do you think your eating, etc…”
When she told me she was working out 6 days a week, and eating about 1,300 calories a day~ it was no surprise to me why her weight wasn’t budging…for more than one reason! However, to sum it up, I knew she was not eating enough!
This seems very strange to most people, especially the average person with a ‘dieting mentality’ who has the ever-so-common belief that eating less= losing weight. This is not all there is to losing weight, and if anything, this is simply not true!