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Dashing Devotional ~ The Desires of Your Heart

February 14th, 2013 - Dashing Devotionals

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“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” ~Psalm 37:4

Guest Post Written by Emily Fairless

Valentine’s Day.  You love it when you have someone to love, and you hate it when you don’t.  Valentine’s day means something different to everyone.  To some it is just a lame Hallmark holiday, to another it a great opportunity to shower the one you love with admiration. To many, Valentine’s Day is another reminder that you’re alone.

For this Valentines, I am blessed to spend it with my fiancé, but it wasn’t long ago that I remember wishing, hoping, and praying that the Lord would send me the one HE created for me.  There were many days I was tired of waiting, sick of crying, and wishing I didn’t feel so lonely.  I’m sure there are many that are alone and can’t relate, but others that may be saying, “YES! I know the feeling!” So to those people, this is for you.  This is my story.

Learning the definition of love

All through high school and part of college, I always in a relationship. Looking back, there was something missing in all of them. I was so tired of the rollercoaster of emotions that one day I made up my mind that I wouldn’t date anyone else and that I was going to wait for my future husband. I began seeking the Lord about my future husband and who HE had for me. I didn’t want to date just to date, so I told myself the next person I was going to be with was my future husband.

My perspective changed the day that I read the scripture found in Isaiah 54:5, “For your Maker is your husband; the Lord Almighty is His name.”  I realized that no one could EVER love me the way the Lord does.  He would NEVER leave me, nor forsake me.  I had a deep revelation in my heart that day that I needed to learn of the Lord’s perfect love for me first and foremost.  A love that is so unconditional; not based on my performance, a never ending, and a never changing love.  I wanted to know my maker as my husband so that when I did get married, that man would never be the ultimate source of my fulfillment, worth, or identity.  That began a three-year journey.  Those three years were the best years of my life, but also some of the most trying.

Ask Specifically

I began writing down very specifically what I desired in my future husband. The Lord showed me in his word that I have not because I ask not and how he delights in giving me the desires of my heart. I focused on the character traits that I desired for my mate: generous, patient, sensitive, funny, caring, etc.  I began thanking God daily for this man.  The more that I fell in love with the Lord, the greater my expectations grew.  When I learned of His character, I knew of what I desired in my future husband.

Renewing My Mind

Some days were amazing as I learned God’s fulfilling love, but there were many days that the enemy would lie to me that I would never find someone to love me, my standards were too high, etc etc.  Almost daily I had to renew my mind to the truth of God’s word and cast down lies that I would never get married, no one would love me, and so on.  When fear would take over, I had to imagine myself walking down the aisle.  (Your imagination is POWERFUL and can truly set the course of your life!)  I would renew my mind to God’s word and speak these scriptures out daily:

“Lord, I thank you that your word says in Psalm 37:4 that, “You delight in giving us the desires of our hearts.” Your word promises us that, “You withhold no good thing to those that love you.” –Psalm 84:11. I thank you that marriage is a good thing and you will bless me with this gift of marriage. Psalm 18:22 says that, “A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”

Being Steadfast

During this time there were guys that would approach me and I would wonder if he was the one.  After all, they were Christian men who loved the Lord.  But sure enough, there was a lack of peace I felt in my heart.  I decided once again to say “no” and continue on my path to who the Lord had for me.  After all, I knew the Lord would bless me for my patience and diligence in seeking him.  I knew this singleness could be one of the best times of my life, if that’s what I believed. The Word says, “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord.” -1 Corinthians 7:32. I began changing my perspective and seeing this singleness as a blessing.

There were many times during my singleness that people, even those most close to me, would say to me, “How are you going to find someone if you never go out?  How will you find him if you don’t date?”  “Are you waiting for the mailman to show up and sweep you off your feet?”  I would simply respond, “If that’s how God will bring him, then sure!  I knew if God created me so intricately and detailed, he is creative enough to bring him in to my life. I didn’t have to worry about how it was going to happen… I knew that the Lord had that all planned out, every detail.

There were also people that would say, “Why don’t you just date so-and-so.  He loves the Lord and treats you wonderfully.”  That would sometimes cause me confusion and I would sometimes question the same thing.  However, I knew what I believed for and if he was anything less, it wasn’t the right one.  I believed for a man of God who knew his authority, who would pray for me, who would fight for me when the enemy was attacking, and one who was strong in the Lord.

I knew my story would be different than how this world does things.  “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is- his good, pleasing, and perfect will.” – Romans 12:1-2

Prepare Me Lord

As I prayed daily for the preparation of my future husband, one day the Lord spoke to me about preparing myself and that this was a time that I was to draw close to the Lord, learn of his Word, who I am in Christ, and what it meant to be a Godly wife.  He showed me he wanted to do a work in me, to strip me of hurts from my past.  The Lord brought me to this quote, “Young women who devote themselves to the Lord prepare themselves for the future by gaining wisdom first, then stepping carefully when the time is right.”

I knew that I would get to that point where I didn’t need anyone to fill me and that the Lord would be enough.  I knew once I got to that point, the Lord would bring him to me.  One of my favorite quotes through this time was, “ A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to see Him just to find her.” -Lucado

My Harvest

On March 17th I was apart of an event with a local evangelist, Chris Palmer. I was asked to be apart of the team and greet guests as they came into the event.  I knew no one, and only recently met Chris.  That morning my sister said, “Who knows… maybe Chris will have a friend you’ll meet.”  I just laughed her off.  I went with the simple intention of drawing closer to the Lord. The night of the event, I was introduced to everyone on the team, including Chris’s good friend, Brett.  Before the event started, I asked Brett if he wanted any coffee to kill time.  The first thing I remember about Brett is how generous he was as he bought coffee for just about everyone on the team.  He opened doors, paid for my coffee, and made me laugh the entire time.  When the service began, Brett was in charge of the set up and making sure everything ran smoothly inside the service.  However, Brett found his way to the front doors that night and was continuously checking to see if I “needed anything”.  He ended up neglecting his duties and just couldn’t help but to stick around the doors with me. The hour of greeting was filled with laughter and conversation.

That night my sister asked how the night went and I responded very shortly, “Good!  I met a lot of cool people.  One of Chris’s friends had me laughing so hard.  I felt like I had known him my entire life.”  I began walking away and she responded, “Uhhhh… Who is this guy!?” Once again, I just laughed her off.  I didn’t think much of it.

Brett got my number that night to see if we could all hang out as a team the following night.  Although I turned down the offer, Brett and I began texting very casually.  After a month or so of us casually talking, Brett invited me to a church service with him and Chris.  As I sat by him that night, the pastor had told us to lay our hand on the person next to us and start praying for each other.  Brett laid his hand on my shoulder and began praying for me. I couldn’t get a word to come out of my mouth.  I just cried.  I cried with an overwhelming sense of joy as I realized he could be the one.  There was just a deep knowing in my spirit.

Throughout the next couple of weeks as we grew closer, I prayed to the Lord and asked him to confirm that I was to continue talking to him.  I didn’t want to date anyone for even a day if I didn’t know 100%.  I opened my Bible to the scripture that said, “You will be governed by peace.”  That spoke volumes to me.  Although we often want God to speak to us in a loud booming voice from heaven, typically the Lord speaks to us by giving us peace or a lack thereof.  I knew what a lack of peace felt like, for I felt it in all my past relationships.  So, I approached every single day with Brett… “Do I have peace today?”

As I got to know Brett, I was amazed daily how he truly was everything and MORE that I had prayed for.  He is one of the most caring, selfless, sensitive, generous, loving, and handsome men I have ever met.  He puts the Lord first and truly pastors me and loves me as the Lord does.  He loves me so unconditionally.  He showers me with love and makes me feel like a queen.  Every door is opened before I can put my hand on it.  Not a day goes by without him speaking his love to me.  He prays for me with such power and authority and encourages me with the Word.  But you know what is cool?  God has fulfilled me in the past few years that I can honestly say that God is my source.  I don’t get my worth or fulfillment from Brett.  His love is just a representation of Jesus’ love for me.

It’s been just 11 months since the day I met Brett and I now have a ring on my left hand to signify our soon-to-be life together.  I truly believe God created marriage as a good thing.  The Word says, “It is not good that Man should be alone; I will make him a helpmate.” –Genesis 2:18. “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.”-Ecclesiastes 4:9.

Trust Him

I pray that my story encouraged you today, wherever you are in your journey.  The Lord cares so much about every detail of your life.  He put the desires in your heart.  The more that you seek Him, the more your desires will become His.  Don’t try to get ahead of God by trying to figure out how it is going to happen.  Trust that if He created this earth and everything in it in such intricate detail, that he has your life planned and figured out.  It will be beyond anything you can ever dream, ask, or imagine.  Our God is so faithful.

 

101 Comments

Lori said:

Such a beautiful love story-love with God, yourself, and Brett. Congrats to you Emily and may God bless your marriage unconditionally.

February 14th, 2013 — 9:17am  |  Reply

lisa wade said:

Very beautiful story…

February 14th, 2013 — 9:21am  |  Reply

lisa wade said:

Very beautiful story…

February 14th, 2013 — 9:21am  |  Reply

Brooke Johnson said:

I loved reading this, thank you for sharing Emily.

February 14th, 2013 — 9:25am  |  Reply

Melinda said:

Beautiful! I am saving this for the time when my daughters will start to consider dating. What a beautiful love story. May God continue to richly bless you.

February 14th, 2013 — 9:29am  |  Reply

Ali said:

What a beautiful and encouraging story! I relate to so much of your story in my own journey toward meeting my husband. Many nights when I was alone I struggled with those negative thoughts (I’ll never meet a Godly man, I’ll never get married, etc.) I fought them off by praying for my future husband. It brought me such peace to pray for him–I knew he was out there even though I hadn’t met him yet. Today I am struggling with a different situation — waiting for God to bring me to a fulfilling job/career. Your encouraging words apply to that situation as well, and I feel uplifted and reassured that with patience and faith He will bring me right to where I need to be! Thank you so much for sharing and best wishes for a long and happy marriage :)

February 14th, 2013 — 9:34am  |  Reply

Rachel said:

Thank you SO much for sharing this!!! I’m so glad the Lord led me to this site today. This was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. My singleness is a constant battle but I know in the bottom of my heart that GOD has a perfect plan! Thank you for the encouragement.

February 14th, 2013 — 9:42am  |  Reply

Jessica said:

Emily, thank you so much for sharing your story, it is so encouraging and exciting to see God’s faithfulness and love for us!!

February 14th, 2013 — 9:46am  |  Reply

Molly said:

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m in the “waiting” period of my life right, and it does my heart so much good to hear a story like yours. Thanks for reminding Who is most important, and for also showing a light at the end of the tunnel of singleness (if it’s the Lord’s will for me).

February 14th, 2013 — 9:48am  |  Reply

Jessika said:

Thank you for this so much!

February 14th, 2013 — 9:50am  |  Reply

Christi said:

Your story brought tears to my eyes! What a blessing to read a story of someone who chose to do things God’s way no matter what. I’m so blessed and encouraged by you, I pray your story touches so many lives and encourages them to do the same. God is always faithful!

February 14th, 2013 — 9:52am  |  Reply

Mandy Walker said:

Awesome!!! I too was in the same situation and the eve of a New Year said my prayer. I was ready when he was ready to send me my 1 and only. We married in September last year. I relate, my husband is the spiritual leader in our little family. I love when he grabs my hand in his and leads in prayer. Joyful I am!

February 14th, 2013 — 9:58am  |  Reply

Mollie said:

I have a very similar story. Thanks for sharing this. Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 14th, 2013 — 10:00am  |  Reply

Hannah said:

your story is exactly what i am feeling right now. there are times when i wonder if God will ever bring someone for me, and i have to remember that God will bring him to me when he is ready, but j also have to be ready. and i know that i am not quite ready yet. i have cried out to God endless times asking why He hasnt brought a man to be the father of my son, but also to be my best friend. but i know now that in order for God to bring him to me. i have to start leaning on Him, and just love on Him, and let him love on me and all that He has for me. i would like God to bring someone soon so my son wont go without a father for too much longer, but i have to wait patiently, which is hard, but i need to wait and just let God bring him, and when the time is right, He will bring him.
i dont know you, but thank you for sharing your story of how God prepared you, and how He brought your man of God to you. it made me cry and realize how i need to not date anyone until my heavenly fatherbrings my future husband to me

February 14th, 2013 — 10:02am  |  Reply

Andrea said:

What a beautiful story Emily! Thank you so much for sharing! I also dated in college and always found that I wasn’t at peace. When I began to pray that God would lead me to the man he had for me, I was still lonely and sad at times, but I was encouraged by the presence of God. When I was 26, I met my now-fiance and he loves me unconditionally. We both say that we wish we had met in high school and only dated each other, but I know God’s timing is perfect. Those times of being single were when I grew in my relationship with Him. Congratulations on your engagement!

February 14th, 2013 — 10:04am  |  Reply

Hannah said:

Thank u so much for this ! Just what I needed today and what I have been struggling with for a LONG time ! Your testimony is Awesome and speaks volumes Thank u for sharing

February 14th, 2013 — 10:15am  |  Reply

Danielle B said:

I am a year into this very journey and have been struggling recently. This article is just what I needed to read to reaffirm my testimony and faith that God will bring the perfect man to me in His time and to stay strong!!

February 14th, 2013 — 10:16am  |  Reply

Kayla said:

Emily – thank you so much for sharing your story! I am in the waiting stage like you were before meeting Brett and struggle with it but every day I pray for my future husband. I feel that he’s out there somewhere. I just have to keep praying and working on my relationship with God. Your story is such encouragement! Congratulations on your engagement! May God bless you and Brett greatly!

February 14th, 2013 — 10:48am  |  Reply

Andreya said:

Beautiful.

February 14th, 2013 — 11:22am  |  Reply

Emily said:

Wow SO many things you said remind me of my love story testimony! So Beautiful! God is Incredible and so Faithful!!

February 14th, 2013 — 12:13pm  |  Reply

Annie Monette said:

This was so amazing. I have a quick question though, when I read the verse Psalm 37:4 that, “You delight in giving us the desires of our hearts.” I looked it, up and my version says “delight yourself in the lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” But the idea that it could DELIGHT god to give me the desires of my heart sounds too good to be true.

My question is, how do you know he delights to do that?

February 14th, 2013 — 12:23pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

You are correct in your version. When we delight in Him (seeking him and building a relationship with him), our desires will naturally become His. I know that God delights in giving us the desires of our heart because I know of His character. He is so loving and gracious towards us. The Bible says in Matthew 7:11, “If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” If a earthly father would give good gifts, why wouldn’t our heavenly father?” :) Hope this helps!

February 14th, 2013 — 12:57pm  | 

Melissa Klotz said:

How beautiful! I am not a religious person, but your story does speak volumes, as I can relate to many of the things you believe in, just in a different way. Congratulations on your happiness!

February 14th, 2013 — 12:25pm  |  Reply

Erica said:

I love how you talked about the Lord using your season of singleness to reach your heart and grow you into the person He needed you to be in order to prepare you to be the wife your future husband would need. I also found it so inspiring how you said that your fiance’s love for you is just a representation of the Lord’s love for you. This is such an awesome post and it is truly an amazing reminder for young-women.

February 14th, 2013 — 12:31pm  |  Reply

Stephanie Back said:

This is a wonderful example of patience and faith. Perfect for us single gals. I’m going to share it with all my single gals who are getting together tonight. Thank you for your openness to share your story.

February 14th, 2013 — 2:03pm  |  Reply

Summer Whelchel said:

Thank you so much for sharing this! I have passed it onto my teenage children who are also seeking after Him first and trusting Him for their future, though that goes against societies expectations. So this is great encouragement for them, as well as some of their friends. Thank you, and God bless you in your upcoming marriage!

February 14th, 2013 — 2:21pm  |  Reply

Kelly@LeafyNotBeefy said:

Oh, thank you so much for writing this – it truly blessed me. As a single woman of 28, sometimse I can give in to the feeling that it might never happen and will I be okay with that? I wrote a similar blog post today (of course, with an unknown ending as I haven’t met the man for me yet) Thanks again :)

February 14th, 2013 — 2:36pm  |  Reply

Jessica said:

Thank you for sharing this story, Emily! I truly needed this. I feel blessed to have found this website. What an encouraging place to help us deepen our faith in GOD. GOD bless! <3

February 14th, 2013 — 3:33pm  |  Reply

LaTanya Orr said:

What a beautiful “love” story! Thank you so much for sharing.

February 14th, 2013 — 4:34pm  |  Reply

Tina said:

Thank you for this. Your story has given me back hope. Truly inspiring. God bless you.

February 14th, 2013 — 5:04pm  |  Reply

Elyse Bairley said:

Thanks for sharing Emily! It’s such an amazing story and brought tears to my eyes! Congrats to you and Brett :)

February 14th, 2013 — 7:17pm  |  Reply

Heather said:

I saw this when a friend posted it on facebook today. What a blessing to me–a single woman looking for her Christian man!

February 15th, 2013 — 2:04am  |  Reply

Donna Corker said:

Sweet Emily,

I praise God Almighty for His faithfulness! When we surrender our will to His will then we can be on the path to the truly amazing lives God has for us…more than we can ask or think! May God bless you both as you continue your ministry togeter! xxxooo

February 15th, 2013 — 8:58am  |  Reply

Stache Cooper said:

This is such a beautiful story I was almost in tears by the end of it! I am so happy you found someone who makes you feel worthwhile because sometimes it takes a person a lifetime. I hope you and Brett will be so happy together and treat everday like it is the first day.

February 15th, 2013 — 10:42am  |  Reply

Megan Abbott said:

Such a sweet encouraging message for me to hear!

February 15th, 2013 — 11:01am  |  Reply

lexie said:

i just had to write you a quick note saying thank you. i struggle with singleness a LOT. i struggle with the fact that at 20 years old [i know, i'm still young!!], i have never dated anybody…which makes me wonder, maybe i NEVER will?! which scares me so because my very deepest desire, just below knowing the Lord more and more everyday, is finding *the* man to be my helpmate.

you’re story is so encouraging to my heart! thank you. and congratulations!

February 16th, 2013 — 12:34pm  |  Reply

Stefanie Killpack said:

This is honestly an answer to my prayers. This is exactly what I am going through right now and I know what I need to do. Thank you for posting this. Truly, God answers our prayers and you were an answer to mine. Thank you!

February 17th, 2013 — 3:54pm  |  Reply

Sheilah said:

It was meant for me to read this at this very moment. HE really does work in mysterious ways. I stumbled upon your blog around fall of last year, but haven’t looked at it for a long while…until today…when I am questioning my dating choices, happiness, sadness over failed relationships, growing in my relationship with God. I just know HE meant for me to read this. I could’ve clicked on any other blog, but today I clicked on yours. Thank you Emily, for speaking to me through HIM.
-Sheilah

February 18th, 2013 — 4:29pm  |  Reply

Lupe said:

Thank you got sharing it inspire me so much and convicted me more. Beautiful story

February 19th, 2013 — 12:53pm  |  Reply

Lupe said:

Thank you for sharing it inspire me so much and convicted me more. Beautiful story

February 19th, 2013 — 12:53pm  |  Reply

Taryn said:

I have been going back and forth on whether to comment on this post or not, mostly because it touched me so deeply that I felt as though nothing I could say would adequately express that.

That being said, this was beautiful! I was not raised in a religious family but have lately been feeling an urge to explore my spirituality a bit more. I have been feeling as though something is missing from my life. Seeing how those who have accepted the Lord into their life are at peace in so many ways convinced me that I needed to step outside of my comfort zone and finally explore this urge.

I have struggled with unhealthy eating habits and stress frequently about being single at 25 when most of my friends are married and having children. I hope to find peace with these facets of my life, just as the both of you have, as I strengthen my relationship with the Lord.

Thank you so much for this post! It was EXACTLY what I needed at this time in my life!!

February 20th, 2013 — 12:10pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

Taryn,
Praise the Lord! That is God tugging on your heart, and I am joyful to know you are following that tug. God loves you more than you’ll ever know. He created you and has your life mapped out, every detail! My sister and I are here for you through this journey! We are all on our own journey and sometimes we need encouragement through it all! Bless you and thank YOU for sharing!

February 21st, 2013 — 12:17pm  | 

Andrea said:

Taryn, thank you for the 3rd paragraph you wrote! I could not have said it better. We are in the same boat girl! Thank you for sharing!! It’s so hard to be patient. Here is how I’m encouraged: “Single Christian women are God’s secret weapons” -Anonymous :)

February 27th, 2013 — 3:22pm  | 

Theauv said:

Thank you for this post! I have been praying daily for my husband. I know God has a plan and I have faith in myself. This post pushes my doubts further from my mind. Thank you. I will reread many times I am sure.

February 20th, 2013 — 11:10pm  |  Reply

Staci said:

Thank you so much for taking time to write out your story. It is a huge boost of encouragement to me tonight, as I have been in a season of amazing love and healing with the Lord and yet am longing still for the one HE has planned for me. Patience, peace and trusting Him. He always does have plans that are good far beyond our own!

February 21st, 2013 — 1:37am  |  Reply

Ashly said:

You have no idea how much I needed to hear that! Thank you for sharing! Sometimes it seems so hard to wait upon the Lord, but He knows the plans He has made for us! Thank you again for sharing.

February 21st, 2013 — 1:11pm  |  Reply

Corina Green said:

Katie,

I find such hope and encouragement in your website on a regular basis. Thank you for sharing your sister’s story!

Emily,
Your story of faithful waiting on The Lord and the feelings you felt upon meeting Brett completely echo the sentiments of my heart and story of how I met my fiancé! It is so encouraging to read your story as I encourage my friends to patiently wait on The Lord to bring their spouse into their lives in His perfect time. I know that your story has and will encourage many as they learn to wait on The Lord’s timing and allow Him to bless their lives with the desires of their heart. Thank you so much for sharing and God bless!! :)

February 22nd, 2013 — 3:24pm  |  Reply

Leah Baumhardt said:

Thank you for sharing your story! I have been on a similar journey. I have been in my season of singleness, and began to pray for my future husband everyday. I also pray that the Lord prepares me to be the woman that man needs. I’m now a senior in college and have spent all four years single without so much as a male friend. Now after praying for a year I have met s man. I was just telling my mom that I have a sense of peace about this one, and that I have a knowing in my soul that the Lord has plans for us. Now I am just waiting to see where the Lord leads us. Hearing your story was such a wonderful conformation to me that I am in this journey with the Lord, and he will lead me to the one he made for me.

February 22nd, 2013 — 11:03pm  |  Reply

Elizabeth said:

Thank you doesn’t seem like enough. The reason I found this posting today had to through divine intervention, as He lead me here to read your story. From the bottom of my heart, it was exactly what I needed to read and I will let your words live in my heart as I pray for my future husband. Thank you for letting your spirit shine onto all your readers.

February 23rd, 2013 — 1:58pm  |  Reply

Elizabeth said:

Thank you doesn’t seem like enough. The reason I found this posting today had to be through divine intervention, as He lead me here to read your story. From the bottom of my heart, it was exactly what I needed to read and I will let your words live in my heart as I pray for my future husband. Thank you for letting your spirit shine onto all your readers

February 23rd, 2013 — 1:59pm  |  Reply

Andrea said:

So wonderful and encouraging! I was just praying about this last night- here was my answer! THANK YOU!!

February 27th, 2013 — 3:18pm  |  Reply

Brianna jackson said:

Thanks for sharing this!! Loved it!! Needed read this for encouragement and reassurance!!!

March 3rd, 2013 — 12:44am  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

So glad to hear it blessed you!

March 3rd, 2013 — 8:34am  | 

jennifer said:

I’m not a religious person at all, but reading this opened me up. Your story is something I really identify with..I constantly go from one long relationship to the other,,,never really feeling the peace I am looking for..always sacrificing myself and my needs and never finding what I need. I’ve recently started to focus on loving myself and trying to be a better person so when I finally meet ‘the one’ I will be complete in myself and be the best version of myself I can be. Thank you so much for posting this..it gives me hope!

March 12th, 2013 — 1:36pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

awesome! :)

March 12th, 2013 — 2:09pm  | 

Sara said:

Wow. Amazing story!! God is good! I didn’t date either and prayed for “the one”. God’s peace and timing are awesome! So happy for you and your journey as a wife soon!

March 12th, 2013 — 10:46pm  |  Reply

Whitney Kint said:

The story about you and your now husband really inspired me!I am a very religious person, and I pray to God often, but I realized I hardly ever pray for my future husband, wherever and whoever he may be. When you said “Don’t try to get ahead of God by trying to figure out how it is going to happen” That really struck a cord in me. I have a guy I am dating now that is PERFECT, but I have been so unsure, and feel like I am just wandering aimlessly in the relationship not knowing if I should pursue it or not. This gave me great inspiration to take it to God and let him direct my path. You are inspired, and this was a huge blessing to me today. Thank you!!!!

March 13th, 2013 — 2:04pm  |  Reply

Courtney said:

Thank You….. I needed to read that..

March 13th, 2013 — 3:26pm  |  Reply

Caron Morgan said:

Thank you my sister. I’ve recently started dating a man that I feel God has sent to me. Each day I ask My Father to guide me. Throughout the years God has been so faithful and clear when it came to relationships. I used to joke that He was just saving me for himself since I got so many no’s when it came to prospective men. Happily, God has been smiling down on me throughout this relationship and I understand what it means to feel peace. But like you, I also knew God clearly had to teach me that He was my first love and no one could fulfill me the way He can. I wish you and your fiancee God’s continued blessings.

March 13th, 2013 — 5:26pm  |  Reply

Andrea said:

Thank you for sharing your story. Who knew that looking up a healthy meatloaf recipe would lead me to this! Just the perfect encouragement to anyone’s journey. Praise God for His blessings in your engagement!

March 14th, 2013 — 3:16pm  |  Reply

Teia Collier said:

Perfectly timely! Thank you for sharing a story of sweet encouragement.

March 27th, 2013 — 10:29am  |  Reply

Brittney said:

I needed this so badly today. The past two weeks have been such a trying time for me and I’ve been talking to God more and more. I know that He brought your story to me, so that I would be patient, and fully rely on Him to show me His plan and trust completely in Him. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.

April 4th, 2013 — 5:14pm  |  Reply

Brittney said:

The timing for this could not have been more perfect. I know with all of my heart that God led me to this story. The past two weeks have been such a trying time for me and with everything inside of me I’m trying to see the positive, knowing God has a bigger, better most perfect plan for me. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for this story, may God bless you and your husband eternally. Although He already has.

April 4th, 2013 — 5:29pm  |  Reply

Yoandra Miramontes said:

i loved this story!!!!!.. it made me realize things and put them in a different perspective.. <3

April 5th, 2013 — 3:57pm  |  Reply

Laura said:

I literally cannot hold back tears as I read your story and witness what the Lord has done in your life. The Holy Spirit graciously spoke through you and into my heart as I stumbled across your blog! I’m a 21-year-old college student and I have been struggling with surrendering my future marriage to the Lord. It’s as if I have been fighting for so long to be in control, and your beautiful words helped me to finally let go tonight. Thankyou so much for sharing, and please continue to spread the wisdom that Christ has poured into your life!!!

-Laura

April 10th, 2013 — 1:49am  |  Reply

Jessica said:

This is truly amazing and I agree with EVERYTHING you have said. I remain confident on a day to day basis that The Lord will provide my mate at the perfect time just like yours. This is a confirmation for me that I must get to the place in my walk where I truly do not NEED anyone else, especially a man. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY!!!

April 10th, 2013 — 12:09pm  |  Reply

annalise johnsen said:

I really liked this story. In the past I relied on men for my self worth and fulfillment. From reading this story I realize that I need to rely on Jesus for my self worth and fulfillment. Praise the Lord!!

April 10th, 2013 — 11:02pm  |  Reply

Nikki said:

Valentine’s Day has been incredibly painful to me for many years, but it’s not the only day of the year that I struggle. I cannot even begin to describe what a blessing reading this post is. I am printing it off and keeping it in a safe spot for when I need some reassurance that God has a plan for my life. I know he has a plan, but sometimes I get incredibly discouraged. I am 26 years old and have only been on three dates in my life. None of those even resulted in a second date. I live in a rural area, and there are very few single men around. The pool dwindles to nothing when considering single Christian men. Nevertheless, I know that God has somebody just for me and that His timing is perfect, and I do not need to concern myself with how I will meet him. I struggle with being patient, but, like you, I know that God is using this time to help me mature and grow in Him.

I would be lying if I said this is how I have always felt. Rather, it is a relatively new feeling. Not so long ago, I was bitter, cynical, hateful, vengeful, jealous, etc…if it was bad, it was me. I was not happy with who I was and knew that I needed to turn my life around. I have been a Christian my entire life, but recently, I have been through some dark days. I still have a few bad days here and there, but I find my strength in the Lord and know that He has plans for me to prosper and give me hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).

The biggest change for me is that I have stopped asking questions. I would read verses like Psalm 37:4 and get mad at God for giving me the desire to be married when He wasn’t making it happen. Now, I am reminded that His timing is perfect and I know that He has something better in mind for me. I have never been willing to “settle” like I see so many people doing, and now I know why. Like you, people have encouraged me to just date so-and-so, but in my heart, I know it is all wrong. Like you, I have a list of character traits that I am unwilling to compromise on. The list has been created through divine inspiration and is not just a random that-sounds-good kind of thing. I must have a man that God desires for me to be with, and my list helps me keep my standards in check.

Your post has given me some great ideas about how to continue my pursuit for growing in God’s love and for preparing myself for marriage when God decides I am ready.

April 16th, 2013 — 10:00pm  |  Reply

Makayla said:

Hi….any update on your situation? Do you have a praise report? I’m currently going through a heart filled desire and yet nothing is happening.

March 9th, 2014 — 5:58pm  | 

Joanna said:

Thank you so very much for this. I am struggling with this right now and reading your words of encouragement have truly spoken to me. God bless you and your marriage!

April 22nd, 2013 — 1:01pm  |  Reply

anita said:

I m so happy I found this page it helped me so much I m 22 years old and pray hardly for my future husband some days I have to cry and fight a lot with the anyme that I will never get this special person I m praying for but god shows me so many time that he can do anything he gave me so many signs already that he listens to my prayers and he is working on it and one day the one will come I trust the lord more now. And for sure reading the bible as much as possible helps so much. Thx for sharing. God bless

April 23rd, 2013 — 12:21am  |  Reply

Katie Wilburn said:

Such a beautiful and inspiring story. Thank you for sharing. This gives me hope!! :)

April 23rd, 2013 — 2:42pm  |  Reply

Casey Sprau said:

I read this post for the second time today and tears are rolling down my cheeks. This is such an encouraging story, Emily. I desire a husband and I know the Lord is preparing me as well as my future husband during this period of time. Thank you so much for sharing!

May 2nd, 2013 — 3:22pm  |  Reply

Penny Arnold said:

Thank you, Thank you, and Thank you! For who you are and sharing your life. My daughter (Lori Arnold) told me about this so I had to read it.

God blesses his people.

I pray right now for your marriage, your future children and the lives you are touching and will continue to touch through your life and your bloggs that God will bring people to you that you can inspire and that will inspire you to become more like Christ. Thank you God for Emily! Thank you for your Holy spirit that guides us and leads us into all good and truth! Amen

June 5th, 2013 — 5:21pm  |  Reply

diane said:

Thank you so much for this.. I so happy you found your soul mate I know mine is out there to :) thanks agian

July 10th, 2013 — 12:42pm  |  Reply

Allison said:

What is the reference to the verse you mentioned..”You will be governed by peace”?

July 11th, 2013 — 1:23am  |  Reply

Margie said:

It’s an amazing story. You are so blessed!!!!!

July 13th, 2013 — 11:08pm  |  Reply

Rachel said:

Thank you so much for sharing this! It was just what I needed to read! I am sure you are encouraging many other girls in the same situation, thank you again!

July 19th, 2013 — 10:58pm  |  Reply

Haleigh said:

I loved the verse that you mentioned “you will be governed by peace”. Can you give me the reference so I can mark it down?

July 22nd, 2013 — 1:25am  |  Reply

Andrea said:

This is such a truly inspiring story. I just recently got out of a year relationship, where I thought he was the one. My spirit was broken and I had nothing to do besides run to the Lord. It’s so uplifting to hear stories of Christian women going through the same thing that I am and making a way out because they gave themselves to God. I love your blog and this story is exactly what I needed to read right now. I will continue to give my all to God and work harder to surrender all of my needs to him and not try to fill voids with temporary things that will create more emptiness.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.

July 22nd, 2013 — 5:59pm  |  Reply

tk said:

Boy i needed this, you story is my story right now, before you met brett, im so encouraged… cos disappontments have been coming, where people say that God isn’t going to match u, u gotta do it yourself, thanks for helping me believe that God is still a match maker.

July 23rd, 2013 — 3:58pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

He’s the best match maker there is! Better than anything I could have brought together!

March 10th, 2014 — 1:16pm  | 

Lisa said:

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was a true blessing to me today. xx

August 7th, 2013 — 2:26pm  |  Reply

Victoria said:

Thank you for sharing! I found myself relating to every single part of your story, up until the 3 year Journey. Of which I am currently in my first year. :) thank you for the encouragement. May God bless you and your soon to be husband.

August 23rd, 2013 — 3:09am  |  Reply

Ainamercy said:

I am happy 4 u congrat!!!!. Bt i am a single mother of 2 girls before i dont want to get marry but as i read your story i pray to get a good mate cos my frist marriage was hell my husband beat me always he left me for another woman it been 3years now

September 29th, 2013 — 9:07am  |  Reply

Keondra Butler said:

Such a beatiful
example of God’s goodness and grace! His timing is ALWAYS perfect. :)

October 14th, 2013 — 2:15am  |  Reply

Lena said:

I am in the single stage and I really connected with your article. A lot of people try and throw Christian guys at me thinking that I should date anyone because how will I know who I am suppose to be with if I don’t date around? I really feel it on my heart to wait for the Lord. I know HE will bring the man he has for me and that I don’t have to go on a ton of dates or seek him out. It is hard waiting though. I don’t know when it will happen and my desire for a husband only deepens with time. I have just recently started my ‘husband list’ and it has been really good. I am going to continue praying for God to reveal the traits of my husband to me so when he comes along I will know? Thank you for sharing your story.

January 9th, 2014 — 5:02pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

Hi Lena,
Thank you for reading my story! I am glad it encouraged you. Good for you for writing down your husband list! Keep thanking God ahead of time for those things!
-Emily

March 10th, 2014 — 1:15pm  | 

Amanda Berliner said:

I feel as if I was reading something that I myself wrote–something the future me wrote to me today. That’s how much this hit home for me. I relate to this so much! THIS WAS SO ENCOURAGING, YOU HAVE NO IDEA! Thank you so much! I can’t wait to share a similar testimony once my time comes. God is so good! Thank you again!

January 19th, 2014 — 3:28pm  |  Reply

Diane said:

Such a beautiful story and it is of great encouragement! :)

February 8th, 2014 — 12:35am  |  Reply

Emily Stallings said:

It’s so amazing how God’s word is alive and active. The truths that you shared a year ago speak so loud to me today. Thank you for sharing because that’s a story I need to hear. So many friends and loved ones are constantly on my case to get out and date but each time I feel something is missing. The missing link is God’s peace because I know it’s not of him! Just like you I know God can bring him right to my front door if it is the right place and the right time. No plan ordained by God can ever fail. When it’s right I’ll know and until then I keep praying for Mr. Right as well as myself and that God would be preparing my heart to be his future bride.

February 15th, 2014 — 1:53pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

You go Emily! God is so delighted that you’re listening to that inner peace! God has great things in store for you. He sees your diligence, faithfulness, and obedience!

March 10th, 2014 — 1:14pm  | 

Roxanna Garcia said:

Thank you so much for the encouragement :)

February 27th, 2014 — 6:05am  |  Reply

Makayla said:

Hi, I have been struggling with my trust in God. I am 30 and feel at times that God has abandoned me. I long for a husband and to bare children. I have prayed consistently about this and feel as if nothing has changed. There is a particular someone in my life with whom I hope will one day become my spouse, but as of now…he and I are only friends. He is a believer just like I am, but is focus on his business and feels that life has priority and his main priority is establishing himself. I pray to God about him…..about me…and about my future husband whether it’s this guy or someone else. I have given him to God, but I’m still struggling with it. I feel like my faith is cracking. I understand that some people are called to be single…..and I fear that so much. Yet this desire in my heart to become a wonderful wife, to have an amazing husband and healthy/beautiful children burns within me. Any advice?

March 9th, 2014 — 5:52pm  |  Reply

Dashing Dish said:

Hi Makayla,
Thank you for sharing your story. The best and most beautiful part of faith is when it says in the word, “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen.” -Hebrews 11:1. Right now, I challenge you to get your eyes off your circumstance. All it will do is keep you going in circles and living in worry. Choose to fix your eyes on the author of your life. If we truly knew how much God loves us and desires to give us good things, then we wouldn’t worry about a single day of your life. Keep your eyes on him, not your own time frame. He has the best plan. Continue to encourage yourself daily by saying out loud, “Lord, I thank you that you desire to give me good gifts. Your words says that a husband is a good thing!”
Keep on trusting Him!
Emily

March 10th, 2014 — 1:13pm  | 

Pat said:

That is so reassuring to hear your story and I have been waiting 4 years to marry a Man of God. I get tired of men of different ethnicities chasing me and men treating me like a sex object. I would love to meet a handsome, single, (which is hard to find at my age) white man with dark brown hair and dark brown eyes (because that is all I’m attracted to physically) but there aren’t any that I’m attracted to that live near me. I’ve had self esteem issues because of an opposite issue – I was a late bloomer. If he said scripture everyday I would be tickled.

March 27th, 2014 — 4:36pm  |  Reply

Christa said:

What a story. My best friend sent me this and your story almost completely matches my life. I decided to trust God about who He wanted me to marry and after much praying and God showing me MANY times I had that peace of who it is. I already know him and I am waiting for God to bring him back to my life in His perfect time. When you said people asked you if the mailman was going to bring him to your house, that just made me laugh! My family always says that! I just always say God has it all planned. I totally understand what you mean when you said you didn’t have that peace about other guys and knew they were not the right one. I have met some nice good guys but it just wasn’t a peaceful feeling, it wasn’t the same as I knew I felt about him. During this time of waiting on God I have learned so much. My faith has grown SO MUCH, my relationship with God is in a place I never thought it possibly could be, and I have learned what it means to be a Godly wife including covering him in prayer every day. It is so true that the devil is always trying to pull me away from Gods plan and trying to make me feel like I am not doing the right thing. I have also learned that it is a daily commitment to staying in Gods will. I KNOW God is going to bring me together with that man and I KNOW it is going to be at His perfect timing, but this post has made me feel so much better knowing someone else chose this same path, that you are so right is not always an easy one! May God continue to bless you and your future husbands life!

March 27th, 2014 — 9:12pm  |  Reply

Mary said:

About marriage and trusting God

March 30th, 2014 — 12:39am  |  Reply

Kathryn wartel said:

Thank you! Your story let’s me know I’m not crazy and I can continue to trust God. This has built my faith. God bless you!

April 14th, 2014 — 1:35pm  |  Reply

Courtney said:

Thanks, I needed this!

April 29th, 2014 — 4:31pm  |  Reply

Renee said:

Thank you so much for sharing! I myself often wonder if God has someone out there for me! But, now it realize that if I will just be patient and focus on my relationship with Him, everything else will just fall into place! :)

August 1st, 2014 — 1:11am  |  Reply

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