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Find Your True Beauty!!!

January 17th, 2011 - True Beauty

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I’ve been asked what the one thing was that I wish I knew when I was a teenager, and do you know what it is!?! I honestly wish that I knew that I didn’t have to ‘look’ like everyone/anyone else! I wish I realized that women truly do come in ALL shapes and sizes! (For example, think about 10 women you know right now, and just think how different each one of their bodies looks…unless those women are your family members of course!)

I wish someone told me that I didn’t have to look good in clothes that long and lean models wear, and that if I found my own ‘style’ then I could dress my body to look pretty darn cute (hey that can be hard being 5 foot!)

I wish someone told me that I shouldn’t compare myself to anyone else, because even when I was feeling pretty ‘good’ about myself one minute…It would all go out the window a moment later when I took one look at the ‘model’ sitting next to me.

The thing that I’ve realized now that I’m an adult is that as long as we are ‘comparing ourselves’ to anyone, we will find dis-satisfaction with what we DO have! When I started to realize this truth, and focus on the good in me, (and I mean purposely notice the things that I do love about me) I was shocked by what happened…I started to feel truly beautiful!

I have found that it doesn’t matter how many people think your beautiful, or even tell you that you are…One thing is always going to be true… Until YOU believe that you are, you will never feel it. It all begins when you stop looking/comparing yourself to others, and start focusing on the beauty in you! It really is that simple!

Also~ when I say ‘focus on the beauty’ in you I’m not just talking about physical things…or even finding beauty in what society says is beautiful, (because let’s face it, they have it screwed up!) I’m talking about the things that make you unique, because they are what make you- YOU!

I’ll give you a little example, I love the fact that I have a very compassionate heart- I feel like this makes me an excellent nurse, and I truly believe it makes me light up peoples lives! :) I know it sounds silly- but it really is just about finding the things that make you unique and choosing to focus on those things~ after all there could never be a more beautiful YOU!

 

I found this article written by Marty Copeland on her Higher Fitness Website (a Christian-based weight loss website), and it really inspired me to write this post! I thought it was extremly powerful…and thought I’d share it with all of you!

“Self Image” by Marty Copeland

It took me many years and much spiritual growth to finally understand what makes us valuable. Contrary to the voice that shouts at us from the television, from movies, billboards and magazines, and sometimes those around us, we are not how we look. Oh, the freedom in the revelation that our “body” is not our “self.”

Yes, I exercise and eat right. Yes, I know that my body is the temple of God’s Holy Spirit and that my goal is to honor God with a lifestyle of progressive health and fitness. HOWEVER, it is with a total equality of value that I balance that understanding God’s Word which says that while man looks at the outward appearance God looks at the heart (I Samuel 16:7). Oh, how freeing it is for us to know that God loves us unconditionally, no matter what we weigh or how we look!

I encourage you to meditate that scripture over and over until it becomes a reality to you. It is a revelation of God’s unconditional love for us that frees us from trying to become something unattainable. After so many years and countless attempts at seeking after a better body, how silly I felt when the blinders were lifted off and I realized that “I am not my body!”

If you are challenged with low self esteem like I was, allow yourself to be loved by God for who you are—for who He made you to be—from the inside out. When you were born again, God recreated your spirit in His image. Your heart is full of love, joy, peace, meekness, gentleness, kindness, faithfulness, endurance and self-control. Romans 8:29 says we are predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, Christ Jesus. Our reborn spirit is like God’s—with the potential and His calling to become more and more like Him.

Don’t be like I was and waste years trying to be something you cannot be. Just realize that God made your spirit, soul and your body and that He has a plan for your life. Accept yourself the way you are today, knowing that His love is unconditional and that He looks at your heart. Self acceptance is freeing. It takes the pressure off and allows our health and fitness goals to be about honoring God in our bodies, instead of trying futilely to prove, either to ourselves or others, that we are valuable because of how we look.

We must get to the place where any effort we make toward self-improvement should be a decision based in freedom and not under pressure. This is a right and privilege of any child of God. I pray that God will bless you as you progress in your understanding of who you are in Him.

There is nothing more powerful than a person who knows who they are in Christ Jesus.

13 Comments

Angie said:

This is such a beautiful post! “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT)

* Some of us think that if we could just get married, or if we could just get a certain job, or a promotion, or attain a certain level of wealth, or have a baby – or if our babies would grow up and graduate! – things would be great. You’re looking in the wrong places.The answer is a person: Jesus Christ.Having Faith in Jesus and God is a huge part of my life. I turn to God when I feel that things aren’t going my way. Then I realize my life is more than just about ME, its about what I can do for OTHERS around me daily. That’s when your truly living. Well I’m not gonna get all “preachy” on you right now. Just something to think about… Is your day geared toward making yourself happy or others? If it’s geared toward making yourself happy (working out for you, making meals for you) then why not do a little something for your younger brother or sister tonight, bake them some of their favorite muffins or take them for a bike ride with you. We often forget that making others happy is the best way for us to feel satisfied!

January 17th, 2011 — 11:29pm  |  Reply

Katie Farrell said:

amen angie! well put! if we focus inward all the time we will get caught up in that, and before we know it, our lives are all about us… and what good is that!?!

January 18th, 2011 — 5:39am  |  Reply

Jess (Daly Authenticity) said:

Katie,

What a post filled with Godly truth! I spent far too many years seeking the perfect body and being the perfect person for everyone around me. The problem with that is, I lost myself and the person that God created me to be in that. I have learned that I have to stop being selfish in my thinking and start taking care of the body that the Lord has blessed me with. I am now starting to ask the Lord what He wants me to do… how long does He want me to work out…. what would He like for me to eat… who does He want me to reach out to?!? Such powerful truths Katie. Thank you!

January 18th, 2011 — 9:10am  |  Reply

lisa said:

this is a great post! I love positive outlooks and attitudes. I’m also only 5 feet tall, always jealous of the taller people and that my pants were ALWAYS dragging on the ground or too long, but now I love being short! People say I’m “cute” because of my small frame! It’s what makes me, ME! :)

January 18th, 2011 — 9:49am  |  Reply

Katie Farrell said:

so true lisa! xoxo

January 18th, 2011 — 6:23pm  | 

Emily said:

Your honesty, wisdom, and truth is so admirable. Thank you for sharing this!! You are right… it is important to ask ourselves what is beautiful about our “insides”. If only we truly knew what it means that “God judges the heart”… and what he sees when he looks at it.

January 18th, 2011 — 6:43pm  |  Reply

Adena said:

How beautiful. I need to print this out and put in my journal!! Thanks for the inspiration and for all of the amazing recipes you share. Wanted to let you know that I have awarded you with the Versatile Blogger Award. You can read about it here.

January 20th, 2011 — 11:11pm  |  Reply

Rach @ ThisItalianFamily said:

Hi there Katie! I am so glad I ran across your blog! I love what you have to say here. I too wish someone had told me these things when I was younger, but sometimes I wonder if I would’ve listened. I work with lots of teen girls and I try to get these things across to them, but it’s like I’m one small voice in the sea of voices telling them how imperfect they are. Thanks for sharing this.

January 21st, 2011 — 3:28pm  |  Reply

Katie Farrell said:

How awesome is that Rach! Keep doing what your doing…you are making a difference~ We need more people like you! :)

January 22nd, 2011 — 11:48am  | 

Vanessa said:

Wow! Of all the blogs I’ve read, this one has to be a favorite! You really touched my heart. I too try to remember that my body is a temple for God. However, I don’t treat it that way. I need to remember that my love for Jesus cannot shine if I don’t even love myself. How beautiful this post and you are!!!!

January 22nd, 2011 — 3:04pm  |  Reply

Sarah said:

Oh, wow, Katie.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I think my heart just drank up these words this morning. So refreshing!

February 4th, 2011 — 6:49am  |  Reply

Katie Farrell said:

So glad to hear Sarah! I know these types of posts are truly God inspired! :)

February 4th, 2011 — 11:16am  | 

Ana Maria said:

these are great posts, i think that you would be great to talk to teenage girls who struggle with these issues early on!

March 19th, 2011 — 4:13pm  |  Reply

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