Dashing Devotional~ Putting an End to “Secret” Eating

August 12th, 2014 - Dashing Devotionals, Inspiration, True Beauty



Putting an End to Secret Eating 

By Sarah Shaffer

Several years ago when the Lord really began opening my eyes to His truth to change my thoughts toward disordered eating habits, he used my kids to teach me a life-changing lesson.  In our house we have a saying, “sneaking is the same as lying.” I teach my kids that if you have to sneak something, you need to pause and question, is what I’m about to choose permissible AND beneficial? If not, that choice could easily lead down a difficult path. You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequences of that choice. 

Even now, it makes me smile to think about how the Lord uses the lessons we strive to teach our kids in our own lives. One day, I caught my little girl hiding in her closet with a number of her older brother’s “off limits” toys. She’d made a very purposeful decision to sneak something she knew wasn’t in her best interest. Minutes later, literally just moments after talking with her about why her sneaking would result in a consequence, I found myself in the kitchen. Specifically, in the pantry – light on, door closed – elbow deep in a bag of chips, very intent on stuffing in as many as I could before I was discovered. BAM!!!! My hypocrisy hit me like a ton of bricks.  The Lord used that perfectly timed experience with my daughter to reveal a life-changing lesson to me. How could I lead my children into truth when this was the example I was setting for them? 

The Lord used that moment and two verses in particular to change my heart toward “sneak” eating. Psalm 25:21 says, “May integrity and honesty protect me, for I put my hope in you.” And, Psalm 32:1-2 declares, “Oh, what joy for those whose rebellion is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight! Yes, what joy for those whose record the Lord has cleared of sin, whose lives are lived in complete honesty!” 

Just as I encourage my children to make blameless choices, choices that they can be proud of no matter who’s watching, the Lord desires the same for you and me. Not because He is watching, waiting for us to “mess up”, or doesn’t trust us, but because He desires that things go well for us. He wants us to make choices that lead to blessed, peaceful paths. That day, I committed that particular area of my disordered eating to Him and laid sneak eating at the foot of the cross. 

If you struggle in this area, let me just encourage you that the Lord is faithful to his beloved children. If you hand this over to the Lord, He will make you free. He will lead you along the right path and show you which way to turn. My prayer for you today is this – Lord, you tell us that where your spirit is there is freedom. We ask you now to send your Holy Spirit to gently direct us away from choices  to sneak what may be permissible but not beneficial in our lives. We commit to you now to live our lives in the light, shield us with your love. In Jesus name, amen.”

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Daily Dish~ Be-YOU-tiful

July 24th, 2014 - Daily Dish, Inspiration, True Beauty


Last week I had the honor of being part of a “Red Carpet Royalty” youth girls event at my dear friend Dayna’s house. Dayna is a youth leader at her church and she wanted to do something really special for the girls, where she made them feel like the royalty that they are, being God’s daughters! It was quite an amazing night, where we celebrated the unique beauty that God has place inside each one of us!

Here are some pictures from this incredible night! (A big thanks to Dayna for sharing the lovely photos from the evening as well!) I hope this post reminds you that every woman is truly beautiful and created special and unique by our creator!


The night started by the girls trying on and picking out a dress to wear. The dresses were lightly worn dresses that were donated. This allowed us to have a whole ‘wardrobe’ of dresses for the girls to pick from.


After the girls picked their dress, we did their hair and make up. The point of this was not to focus on the ‘external’ beauty, but we did want them to feel like it was a special night, and a little make up, dresses, and getting their hair done truly made them feel like it was a “red carpet night”

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After we were all ready, we took pictures in Dayna’s studio. We each took a turn to write one word that describes our testimony!


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To make the girls feel ‘extra’ special (and like the royalty they are) we even rented a limo for the evening, decked out with a red carpet! :)



We blasted Hillsong Young & Free and danced the whole way to the restaurant, (one of my favorite parts of the night!) :)


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We ate at Mongolian BBQ, and had dessert at a frozen yogurt shop! Talk about fun!


The BEST part of entire night however was when we all came back to Dayna’s house and each of the ‘leaders’ (including myself) shared our testimonies as the girls gathered around and listened. It was pretty amazing because out of the six leaders, we each had an entirely different testimony that could potentially reach into each girls heart in a unique way.


I personally started my testimony off by saying “If I could talk to my 16 year old self, I would say…” Because, boy do I wish I could go back and tell my 16 year old self what is really important in this life! It was amazing to be able to share these bits of encouragement and wisdom with these girls, and to pray with them at the end of the night.


Overall, it was such a blessing to pour into each one of these young women, knowing that each one of them are precious daughters of the King of Kings! I hope this post blessed, encouraged, and even inspired you guys to reach out to young women in your own lives and pour into them in some way! Just think of what an amazing thing it is to share what God has taught you to the next generation! Now that my friends is the power of a testimony at work! :)

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Balancing it All- How to Be a Healthy Stay at Home Mom!

June 5th, 2014 - Dashing Devotionals, Inspiration, True Beauty


I am BLESSED and encouraged to share this beautiful word from my good friend Sarah Shaffer! She is an amazing woman whom I met through health coaching, and God is now using her to help other women find freedom! She is a mom of two, and here she shares some practical and real-life tips on balancing it all, and staying mentally, spiritually, and physically healthy as a stay at home mom! (Even if you aren’t a mom, there is such rich wisdom on overcoming food related temptations!) I hope it blesses you guys as much as it did me!


It’s Hard to be at Home

By: Sarah Shaffer

When my daughter was born four years ago, my husband and I took a huge leap of faith, one of the biggest in our life together. We prayerfully decided that it was time for me to leave a successful career in public relations and marketing to stay at home full-time with our kids. When I left my career, there were things I expected. I expected to buy more yoga pants, and fewer heels. I expected to have more playdates and fewer lunch meetings. I expected children songs to become embedded in my mind, and to embrace the routine of picking up toys over and over again. However, one thing that I did not expect, or adequately prepare for was the isolation that can come from being at home. While I considered (and still do) the ability to stay at home a huge blessing, the fact is, that it can be very lonely. Though I had battled eating disorders for most of my adult life (specifically binge eating), I was not prepared for how much more severe it would become for me as a stay-at-home mom. It didn’t take long for me to recognize that my binge eating was getting out of control and that the Enemy was getting a tighter grip on me in that area. I remember desperately crying out to the Lord asking Him to reveal ways for me to avoid eating inappropriately, out of isolation and loneliness. He is always faithful! Almost instantly I felt hope as He inspired thoughts that would help set and keep me free.

My prayer is that the Lord would use my struggle to help set other women free. I pray that what the Lord has graciously revealed to me over the past four years will bless you. If you are struggling today, you are not alone and the Lord who sees knows your pain. He will free and restore you, it’s His promise!

These are just some of the ways the Lord has shown me how to live in freedom:

Pray! Something I asked of the Lord when I cried out to Him was that He give me a quick, easy, instant replacement for thoughts of food and eating. I knew that in the chaos of my day, it had to be simple or it wouldn’t be done. His response was, “pray for someone else”. The most powerful way that the lord helped me overcome eating out of loneliness or isolation, was to immediately shift my focus to praying for someone else. How powerful! Not only was the Lord keeping me from my own sin, but calling me to be more effective for the Kingdom! “Is anyone among you is suffering? Let him pray!” James 5:13

Rest! I am a doer, I feel more fulfilled when I’m accomplishing something. This was something I had to work through (and do daily) with the Lord. I would run myself ragged trying to accomplish tasks around the house. After leaving my career, I no longer had a boss to report to, I wasn’t getting performance reviews, and I wasn’t getting promotions or accolades. As a result, I felt that my value could only be measured by what I had done. In my mind, if the house was clean, meals were prepared, and everything and everyone smelled, and looked, and acted nice I was successful. I was also exhausted. Rest was a rare indulgence. As I worked myself into a weary state, I would become weak and more vulnerable to attack. The Lord revealed to me that it’s not only okay to rest, but it’s critical to keeping me strong against attack from the Enemy.

Enjoy a healthy indulgence! Flipping through a magazine is one of my favorite things to do. For me, reading a magazine is a luxury. So, when I’m tempted to fill myself in inappropriate ways, I’ve learned that it’s okay to luxuriate like that. I’ve also learned that enjoying a “treat” that won’t cause me to stumble can help me avoid eating when I’m not hungry. I love a club soda was fresh lime; it makes me feel like I’m on vacation. Or, an iced coffee in the afternoon. Enjoy it and offer praise for that time to “fill your tank”!

Run away!!! One of the most powerful tools I’ve learned to use are my feet! When the attack is fierce, my defense needs to be stronger as well. Sometimes I just need to literally turn off the lights in the kitchen, and run from the temptation! There have been times that the pull has been so strong I’ve even had to walk out of the house! “God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted He will show you a way out so that you can endure.” 1 Cor 10:13

Find your people! On the days when I feel the temptation to binge coming on, I need to be purposeful to be outside of my house. It’s those days that I schedule a play date with friends, or spend the morning at the park surrounded by the sights and sounds of other people, or even just spend the morning walking around the mall. Being intentional about staying out of the house and surrounding myself with others really helps mitigate the battle.

Sing! It’s hard for a mouth filled with praise and worship to be sinning. When I feel tempted to fill my mouth with food inappropriately, I purposefully start praising (and praying). Almost immediately I feel my soul fill and the presence of the Lord fill the lonely spaces. “I will sing to the Lord as long as I live. I will praise my God to my last breath!” Psalm 104;33

Get support! The Bible tells us that iron sharpens iron!! Friends, I cannot emphasis enough how critical this point is. CRITICAL! Please, if you haven’t before, ask God to give you someone, just one person that you can depend on and be accountable to. Second only to prayer and worship, this has been the most vital to my success! On the days, and in the moments when you feel alone and tempted to fill that void with food, you’ll have someone to pray for you. I have been blessed beyond measure to have had an accountability partner for the past four years! Almost daily we touch base to make sure that we are filling our souls with the Word of God, disciplining our bodies with both proper eating and exercise, and asking for specific prayer needs. Katie’s health coaching is an incredible resource to help fill this need! I absolutely would not be where I am today without it! “But instead warn admonish, urge, and encourage one another every day, as long as it is called today, that none of you may be hardened into settled rebellion by the deceitfulness of sin by the fraudulence, the trickery which the delusive glamor of his sin may play on him.” Hebrews 3:13

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The Dashing Dish Bridal Bootcamp is Here!!!

May 1st, 2014 - Announcements, Fitness News, Food News, Inspiration, True Beauty


The Dashing Dish Bridal Bootcamp is Here!

This program was designed with brides in mind, but it is awesome for anyone who wants to get in shape for a big day!

Click Here to Learn More! 

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Scripture Based Prayers for Taking Care of Your Body

March 27th, 2014 - Dashing Devotionals, Inspiration, True Beauty


The Word of God is alive, powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword! When we pray according to promises in the Word of God, we are praying in agreement with what God says about us! Nothing has impacted or changed my life more than when I found promises in the Word of God, wrote them down on notecards, and put them around my house, car, or wherever I could see them throughout the day! I started doing this years ago, and it was so life-changing, that I have continued to do it ever since! Whatever season we may be in, or whatever difficulties we may be facing, God’s Word has an answer, a promise, and and way out! When we agree and focus our attention on these promises, we can and will overcome anything that comes our way!

These are some scriptures that I have found over the years relating to taking care of my health and body, and keeping it well balanced. I have turned them into prayers that I can pray over my day in regards to this topic! You can do this with any area of your life, and I encourage you to ask the Lord to show you scriptures that He has specifically for you…But I hope this helps get you started! I pray you are encouraged today by these prayers, and that the awesome Word of God reminds you who are in Christ, and the overcoming victory that you can have in Him!

Feel free to print these scripture-based prayers out for yourself! You could also write them down on notecards, in a journal, or share them with friends/family! To print out a PDF version click here!

God, I thank you that you are for me today. I thank you that you are strengthening me, helping me, and upholding me with your righteous right hand. ~(Romans 8:31, Isaiah 41:10) 

Today I make the choice to lay aside every weight, and the sin that I used to be entangled in, and I run with patience the race that is set before me, Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of my faith. ~(Hebrews 12:1-2)

Today I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I thank you that through you I am victorious in everything that I do! ~ (Philippians 4:14, 1 Corinthians 15:57)

Thank you Father that you have good plans for me in regards to my health and helping me reach and maintain a healthy weight. You have a great future for me, and you have filled me with hope! ~ (Jeremiah 29:11)

I thank you Lord that as I submit myself to you today, and resist the enemy and his lies, the devil has to flee from me in Jesus Name! ~ (James 4:7) 

Today I will take care of my body, for I am God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which He has prepared in advance for me to do. ~ (Ephesians 2:10)

Today I make the choice to be self-controlled and alert. I will stay on guard by keeping my eyes fixed on Jesus and staying constant in prayer, so I will not fall into temptation. ~(1 Peter 5:8, Matthew 26:41)

Thank you Lord, that you will guide me continually today, giving me water when I feel dry and restoring my strength when I feel weak. ~(Isaiah 58:11)

Today I make the choice to treat my body as a gift. It was bought with a price, and I will glorify God in the choices and actions I make when it comes to my body.~ (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Today, instead of indulging my flesh with physical cravings, I will work up an appetite for God’s Word! When I make make the choice to fill up on His Word, He will satisfy me better than anything on this earth ever could! ~ (Matthew 5:6)

Today I will mediate on who God says I am. I will not be conformed to this world, but rather I will choose to renew my mind with the Word of God, and be transformed! When I do this I will be able to discern God’s perfect will for my life, my health, and my body. ~ (Romans 12:2)

Lord, today I will trust in you with all of my heart, and I will not lean any longer on my own understanding; I will submit ALL of my ways to you today, and as I do, I thank you that you will make your paths straight.~ (Proverbs 3:5-6)

I praise you Lord, for you are the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort. You comfort me in all of my troubles, so that I can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort that I myself have received from you! ~ (2 Corinthians 1: 3-4)

Lord, I thank you that my old sinful self was crucified with Christ. I am no longer a slave to any sin, and I am free from it’s power! Therefore, I will not let sin control the way I live. I do not give into sinful desires, but I give myself completely to God. ~(Romans 6:6-12)

Today I choose to think on those things that please the Spirit of God. As live by the Spirit, it leads to life and peace in every area of my life!~ (Romans 8:5)

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Dashing Devotional~ Don’t Get Weighed Down by Weight!

October 10th, 2013 - Dashing Devotionals, True Beauty


Don’t Get Weighed Down by Weight!

By Sarah Shaffer

For me, the ritual was always the same. I’d tap the scale and carefully climb on. With bated breath – I would wait. Then, I would repeat the process a second time to make sure everything was “accurate”.

The dictionary defines an idol as anything in the natural world that is given sacred value and power. My weight, that elusive number staring back at me on the scale would determine my mood, my joy or lack of joy, my worth – what it said about me held sacred value and power in my life. What is said about me would affect how I dressed, how I interacted with my family, what I ate, how I felt about myself, about God, about my life.

My weight was controlling me; I was not in control of my weight. Ironically, that number was often the heaviest, weightiest part of my whole day. Through time in prayer and by His abundant grace, God revealed to me that my weight had become a seductive and very powerful idol in my life. It had stolen my joy, or affirmed my worth. It had not just been an addiction, it had become a matter of sin – idolatry in my life in a very real, and very damaging way. The number on the scale held so much value that it really had complete power over me. The Lord revealed this to me because He wanted me free.

If this scenario sounds familiar to you, be encouraged! He wants you free too! He desires a radical return to Him. It is impossible to serve two gods and, for me, my weight had become a god in my life (“This is what the Lord Almighty says; I am the First and the Last; there is no other God.” Isaiah 44:6). To free me from the bondage of this sin, God asked me to totally abandon weighing myself – totally! He impressed upon me the need to throw the scale away and be done with it. What freedom (It is for freedom that Christ set us free!)!

Instantly, I could feel the heavy yoke lifting and I was freer to focus on Him than I’d ever been. That act of obedience allowed me to have correct motives for healthy eating and exercise. The Lord confirmed to me that the number on the scale is nothing more than that – a number, a piece of information. It is not a measure of my worth. It is not a sign of success or failure. It does nothing to add to, confirm, or deny my holiness. It does not represent my beauty nor does it increase my goodness.

If the scale holds sacred value in your life or is a source of addiction for you, I want to encourage you today that the Lord has more truthful measures for you. There is no fault in desiring or working toward a healthy body, but friends, remember, the beauty in you is not measured by pounds, it’s measured by the glory of the One who shines through you!

Prayer for Today: “Lord, thank you that you love us enough to keep us from trying to serve two Gods. Thank you for rescuing us from a heart divided. Thank you for beginning the process of tearing down idols – lies – that we’ve clung to as truth. Lord, we release the idol of weight to you and humbly ask that you would put weight in its proper place in our lives. We ask that weight become nothing more in our lives than what it truly is, a number, and a piece of information – nothing more. In Jesus name we pray that it no longer hold scared value and power in our lives. Holy Spirit we ask you to help us keep sacred that which is sacred and to run from lies. Lord, no longer will we give the number on the scale sacred value and we release its power over our lives. In Jesus name, Amen!”


{I am SO blessed to share this guest Dashing Devotional written by an amazing woman named Sarah. I met Sarah through my Health Coaching program! She went through and completed 8 weeks of health coaching, and she truly grabbed a hold of her freedom in the area of her health, weight, and finding her identity in Christ! She now leads women’s groups related to these issues, and is being used mightily by the Lord to help others find freedom just as she has! Praise God! That’s what it’s all about~Sharing the Freedom that can only be Found in Him!}

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You Make ALL Things New!

March 29th, 2013 - Dashing Devotionals, True Beauty


When I was going through one of the hardest times in the recovery process of my eating disorder I remember taking walks and listening to this song by Nicole Nordeman called “Every Season” on repeat. It still brings tears to my eyes today as I listen to it…Especially around this time of year. As the winter turns to spring around us, I am reminded in such a powerful way of how the Lord takes what was once dead and breaths His life into it, making it new.

Easter is special reminder of God’s amazing ability to take what was once dead and bring it back to life. As we reflect on the true meaning of  Easter, we remember how He took Jesus, who was dead for three days, and brought Him back to life, so that we could have abundant life and eternal salvation! What a beautiful picture of how He truly does renew and restore! It doesn’t matter how hopeless your situation may look, or how dead something might seem. If you bring it to the God who brings life to the dead, you can surely rest in the fact that He will bring hope, restoration, and renewal to ever area of your life as well!

I pray that you have a revelation of God’s great love for you this Easter and spring season. xo Katie


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Dashing Devotional ~Change that Will Last

January 15th, 2013 - Dashing Devotionals, True Beauty


You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit–fruit that will last. Then the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.~John 15:16

Have you ever experienced a time where you decided to make a change in your life and you feel like you are doing great for a period of time, (hello New Year’s resolutions) only to find that you wake up one day feeling like you have been completely defeated?!? I’m sure we have all felt like that, whether it’s for a day, a week, or a season of our lives. This can leave you feeling discouraged and in some cases even like there is no point in even trying to make a ‘change’.  After all, you know in time that you will just fail again, so why bother?

Sound familiar!?!

If it does, you are not alone! Why is it that as humans we so often feel like we are bound to fall at some point after we decide to make a change? Well, I can speak from experience here, and say that whenever I try to accomplish anything without the Lord it always leads to failure.  I may make it  awhile on my own, (which certainly leads me to believe I have been successful for that period of time) but it is always inevitable….  When I try to make a lasting change without the Lord’s help, guidance, and strength the out come is always the same… I fall back to my ‘old’ ways.

This pattern went on for much of my life, as I tried to succeed in many things without the Lord, (or according to the worlds way’s of doing things), but it wasn’t until I woke up one day and realized that I wasn’t getting very far using my wisdom, or the wisdom of this world. I decided one day that instead of trying to ‘change’ things about myself, that I was going to follow the direction and guidance of Matthew 6:33, which states, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

It wasn’t until I fully made the decision to pursue the Lord’s ways for me and sought Him out in specific areas where I needed change, that I was finding lasting change was being produced in my life. This is what the bible talks about when it speaks of bearing fruit that will LAST in our lives! (John 15:16).

I now know that anytime I am seeking change in an area of my life that I can overcome anything and be successful in anything I set out to do, but it truly is only THROUGH Christ that I will get the strength that I need for lasting change! (Philippians 4:13)

Practically speaking, I have concluded that all lasting change begins with a simple cry out to the Lord for help. I know that in myself I am not strong enough. I begin by acknowledging that I NEED Him to guide, counsel and strengthen me in a specific area.

The next thing I do is go to the Word and ask the Lord to give me promises to stand on relating to whatever it is that I am dealing with. He is always SO faithful to point me to the truth that I need in each situation, (Matthew 7:7). I write these verses out on a piece of paper and keep them where I can see them to remind me daily of the truth. I also know that God’s word is life-giving and encouraging when I am tempted to feel discouraged or afraid (Proverbs 4:20-22).

Another thing that I have learned that is vital to walking out change is staying connected to the ‘vine’, which is Jesus! John 15:5  reveals this truth when Jesus tells us, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit;apart from me you can do nothing.” There is no magic formula to this, but for me, I know it requires taking time out of each day to spend with Jesus. For example, if I find that I am getting overly busy that it isn’t long before I feel my eyes being pulled away from the Lord. I know that I absolutely NEED to spend time with Him to walk in freedom and walk by the Spirit daily! I think this can really be summed up by the scripture that says, “the cares of this world come and choke the Word”…(Mark 4:19). We don’t even need to be preoccupied by ‘bad’ things…just being overly busy with the cares of this world can really drown out the truth of God’s Word in our lives.

Now the good news…I can honestly say that every time I have ever brought something to the Lord that needs to be changed in me, I have been radically changed. Not changed for a while and then in a matter of time I fall….I can say by experience that when you get the Lord involved in any area of your life, you will always reach a place where you are so far removed from those things of your past that you will look back and not even be able to identify with that old habit anymore!

It’s so amazing how the Lord heals us from our past and truly wipes it clean! I think that’s why I can so freely talk about eating disorders without any shame or guilt… The Lord has truly made me new in this area!

Change can take time and there is often a healing process, which isn’t always easy, but the Lord is faithful when you trust Him and don’t give up! It is then that the miracle of healing and restoration takes place by the Lord in those places that used to be a struggle. And before you know it, they become a distant memory.  And what’s even better… a testimony that can help set others free!





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We Overcome By The Word of our Testimony~ Testimonies Shared!

October 19th, 2012 - Announcements, Articles, Inspiration, True Beauty



As some of you may know, I did a post a few weeks back explaining that I felt the Lord was prompting me to have people share their testimonies on how the Lord has helped them overcome a weight related issue in their life in order to encourage one another! The testimonies I received made me laugh, cry, and praise our Lord! I want to personally take a moment to thank everyone who shared their struggles, their heart, and how the Lord gave them strength to overcome!

Emily says:

I grew up dancing. I loved ballet. Ballet was the thing I was most passionate about, I adored it. Being 8 years old, I was pretty good at what I did, and I decided then that I wanted to be a professional ballerina, move to New York, and dance for the New York City Ballet. I had big dreams.

When I was eleven, my teachers always talked about weight issues in the south. They told us little dancers that in order for us to be accomplished dancers we must be skinny. This was my first exposure to the lifestyle of dancers. They didn’t eat well, only eating the bare minimum, and still dancing up to 40-50 hours a week. They were tiny, and fragile. at eleven years old, I decided I needed to be that thin.

Living in a house where food was never an issue, I never struggled with the weight/eating problem. My mom mad sure I had plenty of food to keep me nourished as I danced. as I got older, i struggled with the mindset of a dancer. Only eat so you can dance, but don’t indulge. Don’t eat that cookie, or your leotard will show it. Nuts and bananas, nuts and bananas. That’s it. I never struggled with it until I was fifteen.

Our company did Swan Lake, and a guest choreographer came to town. He was a tyrant. I remember coming home, my feet bleeding, hungry, and yet I had his voice in my head, “at my studio, to girls are all the same. Tiny and perfect”. The “don’t eat anything” voice also lingered. I ate enough to keep my mom off my back, but I didn’t want to. When Swan Lake was over, I stopped ballet for good. I had lost my passion. No drive, just burnt out.

I went through high school always belittling myself. I was never good enough, small enough, skinny enough or had a small/flat enough stomach. Food was the enemy, and our relationship was bad. But I loved food, especially sweets. When I would indulge, I over-did it. I would make myself sick off candy. But i didn’t care. Until the next morning, I would try and make myself throw up. God gave me real good gag reflexes, because I could never accomplish my goal.

When i graduated high school, I was tiny. I weighed one hundred 23 pounds, and was still not happy with my body. Little did I know, college was going to be so hard.

College came, an without my moms help, I got really sick. Both mentally and physically. I did not know until 2nd semester that anemia invaded my body, and I needed treatment immediately. I was having super irregular periods, causing this anemia. My doctors were concerned that I needed to get more than iron replacement, but I needed to go on birth control, which I did not like one bit.

Instantly I gained ten pounds. Wow, the “don’t eat” voice came back.
I was ridiculous.
I still ate, but I cried all the time about how fat I was.

Then, my cousin (whom I admire so much) wrote this to me :
“Don’t look in the mirror and see the little insignificant things the world doesn’t even see – see that God made you. You are beautiful, not only because of who you are and what you stand for, but because of the fact that God, Himself, took the time to make you. (nine months in the womb, right?) There is nothing ugly about that. Don’t think about weight or cellulite because in the end, none of that matters. Think about your life, your path, your call. Follow Him with all your heart, and no one will be able to say that you were anything but smart, innocent, lovely, couragous, encouraging, positive, and BEAUTIFUL. But even if someone does say something opposite of that, then remember that they must be jealous, blind, or REALLY slow. Nothing in this world can hold you back, don’t let them think they can. Don’t let rain clouds shadow your day. Don’t let words break your heart. Don’t let misunderstandings or failures decide your future. Don’t let the past cloud your desicions. You are God’s daughter.

But I know that words are not enough, and that you have probably encountered too many words, and you aren’t sure what to believe. Some people lie, and sometimes it’s easier to believe that everyone will lie to you. Well, know that none of us are lying to you when we say you’re beautiful… when we say we miss you… when we say we are praying for you… when we remind you that you are HIS. But if you choose to not believe us, we will understand. We’re fallible. We do lie. We cheat and steal and do all sorts of horrible things. We are human. But I want to encourage you, for there is Someone who is not like us. The Father is saying all these things too. He shouts them throughout His word, and you can believe Him. Because He doesn’t lie or cheat or steal. He is jealous for your love and attention, and the most beautiful thing about giving Him those things is that He rewards it (even though we don’t deserve any rewards). We are forgiven every day for the failures that we have every day. We are given grace for every day, and every morning can be new with Him. We don’t have to hold onto, live through, or wallow through our past faults and mistakes. THANK GOD.

So, don’t believe anything but Him…”

Okay, wake up call. I had been focusing on myself. How nauseating. One person said, “Self is nauseating”.

It is. How selfish am I? Why did I focus on what lies the enemy was feeding me.
God is so good.
I am healthy, and beyond blessed, so why focus on the worldly things?
Sure, its easier said than done, and yes I struggle still with self-image.
But instead of self-image problems, why no focus on how God looks at me. Does he approve of my heart? I am his child, he knit me in my mothers womb.

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I love this website not only because it has recipes for health and the Lord, but because you shared your story of how the Lord redeemed you. I thank you for that.

Thanks for listening to my story.

Julie says:

“My body image story dates all the way back to middle school. It was during those “awkward years” that I started to grow faster than some of my “skinny” classmates. I had always been a strong Christian, so I naturally wanted to take my anger out on my heavenly father. Why was he making these awkward years so hard? It wasn’t until now that I realized this was all in his plan.

In 8th grade, I lost a little bit of weight after starting to exercise and take care of myself. I loved my body again! But after transferring to a different school system for high school, I began to gain this weight back. I had stopped worrying about taking care of the body God had given me, and the weight crept on. Trying to make new friends was hard. These kids had been together and formed friendships since elementary school and here I was trying to become a part of their group. I felt so shut out and alone. This struggle ended up leading to depression and quickly turned into an eating disorder, as the chemical imbalance in my body caused me to hardly ever feel hungry. I had visions of kids at school talking about me behind my back and a sense that no one wanted to be known as my friend. Looking back, I know this wasn’t the case for each of my peers, as some of them would reach out to me if they found me crying in the bathroom or noticeably upset. My mind was telling me otherwise. I ended up taking medication to fix the chemical imbalance and transferring to a different school where I had friends and family. I was able to relatively enjoy the last few years of high school, but there was still a part of me that wasn’t completely at ease until I found Dashing Dish during college. I still had a constant sense of anxiety about what people thought of me and had this constant sense of pressure that was extremely tiring. Katie’s testimony on Dashing Dish gave me the sense of peace I was looking for. Knowing that she had struggled with body image and had turned to God, healthy eating and exercise made it so much easier to accept who I was. Who else do we really have to please than God? He is the one that knows what is best for us, and He is in control everyday. Beginning to really trust God in all aspects of my life was what made such a big difference. Coupling that with the endorphins from exercise and the healthy feeling I get from eating appropriately, I am more confident in myself.

In closing, I have to say that no matter how emotionally tiring my teen years were, I wouldn’t change them for anything. My parents were so supportive throughout the struggle, and my father reminded me numerous times that God had a special life planned for me. Not a days goes by that I don’t remind myself of that saying, and push myself to be the best possible individual that I can be.”

Celeste says:

“Dashing Dish did not only help me get past my obsessive fitness/health phase. It has encouraged and helped me on my journey to find my relationship with God again. This is the most at ease I have felt in a long time! Katie is the BEST! xoxo”

Andrea says:

“I so appreciate the work you do at Dashing Dish, the recipes and the devotionals have been a blessing to me.  I prayed about sending my testimony in as it is a little different I think but I hope it can speak to someone.

I grew up in a Christian home (Dad’s a pastor!) so I always knew the love of Jesus, but the words of others always affected me.  I still remember my 6th grade teacher saying I was “disgusting” and until a few years ago, it still hurt like the day she said it.  When I was 21 I got married, but unfortunately did not prayerfully consider this big decision in my life.  He used words and insults to control me and make himself feel better.  For two years I heard every day that I was “ugly”, “fat”, and “worthless”.  None of those things are true, but after hearing it enough I began to believe it and restricted my eating to try to fit into his image of what I should be.  I was too skinny and it was never enough.  The words still hurt.  When the marriage ended after only 2 years due to his infidelity, I felt guilt (could I have done more?) and shame.  I also still heard his painful words every day.  I believed his lies and did not think I was worth the trouble of eating well.

One day, my Dad said something that turned my depression around and turned my focus to God and His will for my life.  He told me I was his beautiful daughter and he loved me.  He knew I deserved better than my failed marriage and the words I was carrying in my heart.  Then he said, “If I love you that much, imagine how much God loves you.  You are His beautiful daughter too.  He doesn’t see what you see, He sees your beauty, your heart, and what you can become in Him.”  he gave me some Scriptures that helped his prove his point. Having a pastor for a Dad is great! :) That day I began to pray and slowly God changed my view of myself.  I gained some healthy weight and also perspective.  I started following God’s lead and let Him show me who I was meant to be.  Its someone beautiful, kind, and definitely not worthless. It was a long process.  I am 30 now, and 4 years ago I prayerfully considered dating again.  I wanted this relationship to be right and God’s will for me.  Soon after I met my now-fiance who shares my values and has an extremely kind heart.  Most importantly, I know that my True Beauty is in my heart and how God sees me.  It is sometimes a struggle when I remember those words of the past, but with prayer I know I can overcome.

The End!  Felt good to write it out :) Thanks again Katie for your wonderful ministry to women.  Your devotionals are an inspiration to me!”

Leah says:

“I was just an innocent 9 year old pursuing my favorite sport of gymnastics.  God had blessed me with a talent to flip, twirl, and balance.  He didn’t have planned the mind lies that I would hear from adult coaches who should have known better.  At first, I was influenced by what I heard others being called by our coaches.  I didn’t want to be called the “Pillsbury Dough girl” like my friend or teased that I “ate too much at grandmas.”  I feared it tremendously!  From then on, I became absorbed with body image and weight.

As my body grew and changed the fear became even more real.  I was reminded everyday what I looked like in a leotard because I wore one everyday.  I wasn’t a Christian growing up, so all I knew was the lies of the world.  My security was control and perfectionism.  This permeated every area of my life, but most specifically to food and (I was already working out 20 hours a week for gymnastics practice) exercise. Fast forward to my freshman year of college, and this is when my addiction for perfection with food really took over my life.  I became a slave to food journals and eating only certain things.  It was bondage and I was desperate to break free.  It was the beginning  of my sophomore year of college and I became a Christian.  I was SAVED!  Shortly after that time, I began to realize that all that I was comparing myself to and all the negative self talk was not from the Lord.  HE wanted better for me.  He always had, but I needed to believe I was worth it no matter what my body looked like.  I needed to be healthy about food choices and quit being a slave to the world and food journals.  It was hard to give up my control, but when I did I felt the most beautiful FREEDOM.

Fast forward a few more years, and I was sitting back in the seat of listening to those old lies of not being “skinny enough.”  I was depressed about my post baby body.  I was so mad that I had fallen back to some of my old habits!  It was then that I found Dashing Dish back in April 2010.  I honestly cannot remember how I found Katie’s blog, but it was God designed!  I first read her testimony and immediately felt like I could relate and I remember crying feeling like I had some hope to get back to listening to the TRUTHS from the Lord and not the LIES of the enemy in my life.  I was oh so weak at the time, but I prayed the Lord would give me strength and slowly I started to mediate on the truths again and cast out the lies.  Body acceptance is still a journey for me, but I am so thankful that He continues to redeem me each time I go to Him.

Thank you, Katie at Dashing Dish for listening to God’s whispers to share your journey with the world and providing a platform for other women to come to and find TRUTH.  God Bless!”

Liz says:

“We should eat to live, not live to eat.

Before today, I could not have told you where that phrase came from even though I have quoted it to myself and to others over the years. I would have thought it originated in America since we are not known for being the most healthy culture when it comes to our views of food.

It surprised me to find on several websites this quote “thou shouldst eat to live; not live to eat” credited to Socrates. My personal conclusion for a long time has been that it is a human condition that influences our misuse of food and not a cultural condition.

If we want to see real change in our eating habits, we probably need to answer the question why do we live to eat?

I am not saying this is the answer to all America’s health problems and views of food. However, answering this question for myself has given me freedom in my life from being an emotional eater. Freedom doesn’t mean that I am not disciplined in my eating because to my friends how I eat may not look like freedom. I know though for me that it is directly related to freedom.

True freedom doesn’t come without discipline. Ironically, freedom comes from overcoming the reasons behind why we are indulging. Because our indulging is bondage. It appears to be freedom, but in reality, it is bondage because we are a slave to our emotions.

There are a slew of other benefits of eating to live we could talk about, and those I have known and enjoyed for years. Recently, those reasons were not enough to motivate me to eat to live. I had to find the root cause of where my healthy eating habits got derailed to get back on track.

What did I find as the cause? My eating habits were (and are) a result of my human condition.

Looking back, I describe this time of emotional eating as a spiritual winter, feeling cold and numb because of life’s pain that has come over the last 5 years. My response to that spiritual winter was emotional eating.

I had never been an emotional eater before that point in my life. I had always had plenty of will power to be disciplined in my eating and remember people saying that to me regularly. During that winter season, I used food to fill the emptiness I was feeling instead of putting my full hope in God.

I won’t describe in detail how I have moved beyond that winter into what I describe now as my spiritual spring. I will tell you that it has been a spiritual journey and wasn’t about motivation, discipline, or education. All the things we think will make us healthier eaters.

We can find many different ways to fill the emptiness besides food. Because of this, I have to continue to focus on God’s truth and seek Him through the pain that life brings. Psalm 25:4-5  says “Show me the right path, O  Lord, point out the road for me to follow. Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in You.”

It is amazing to be on the other side of that season. To see God’s faithfulness, His grace, His love in my life. My response to all that is to encourage you to seek God in areas of your life where you need to put your hope in Him. Because, He is the one who saves us and all day long we can put our hope in Him.”

Thank you  again to these amazing women for letting your light shine before men so they will praise our Father in heaven! (Matthew 5:16)

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We Overcome By The Word of Our Testimony!

September 28th, 2012 - Announcements, Inspiration, True Beauty


The other day when I was on a walk, I started reflecting on the amazing testimonies people have shared about how God has transformed their life. Whether it be about how God has helped people overcome in the area of weight related strongholds, eating disorders, or poor self image…I have received so many wonderful praise reports oh how God has taken the ‘ashes’ of peoples lives and turned it into ‘beauty’. (Isaiah 61:3)

It was during this walk that I felt the Lord prompt me to have people share their testimonies on Dashing Dish, as a way to encourage others that they too can and will overcome whatever it is they are facing with the Lord’s help. I believe this is SO powerful for many reasons, but if nothing else, every time we share our testimony something powerful happens…The bible says that when we share what the Lord has done in our lives, that we “Overcome satan by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony.” (Revelation 12:11)

After praying about it, I would love it if you shared your testimony with me via e-mail about how God has touched your life in the area of weight related issues, eating disorders, self image issues, or how He has given you guidance and strength to live a healthy lifestyle for you and your family. I will then share them on Dashing Dish (with your permission of course), as a way of blessing and encouraging others with the good news of what the Lord has done!

Please note that these testimonies don’t have to include your name, (unless you desire them too), and they don’t have to be long! Also, they can, but certainly don’t have to relate to Dashing Dish…It is purely all about how the Lord has helped you overcome weight, eating, and self-image related battles!

Let’s join together and overcome the enemy by praising the name of Jesus and sharing how He has taken the ashes of our lives and turned them into True Beauty!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for prayerfully considering sharing your testimony!

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